Big-time family upheaval

Well I guess you've wondered why there have been no blog entries for a while. It's really simple-our family is in a major upheaval mode.
I wrote last time about the turmoil with the boys and shakeup in their apartment. Well, it got worse!! Seems we found out by way of MySpace that Tony and the girl, Noelle, got married right after the 1st of January. I was against it to begin with-he'd not known her long enough and he was just reacting from his return from Iraq in October, among other things.
Found out the other day that he had skipped out on the rent at the apt. for 2 months, and written a bogus check for the 3rd month. How did I find out, you ask? Simple-the landlady called Matt here and told him as his name is also on the lease that he is responsible for his brother's actions. Anyway, he and Noelle have moved in with her family.
My hubby's actions are a different story though. He stays on the computer, playing online poker from the time he gets out of bed til the time he returns to it-sometimes going days w/o sleep or meds. I think it's a phase of his severe PTSD but I can't force him into treatment-not even with medical POA. The drs. and his therapists say he has to decide he needs help and be ready to follow through with it.So far, he's not at that point.